Embracing Your “Open” Nest
“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.” (English Proverb)
Getting ready for her to leave: Is she my best friend? Do I make day to day plans solely dependent upon her? Does my day revolve around her schedule? Does she tell me everything going on in her life? Do we spend most of our time as parents talking about her?
I cannot depend on her to continue to breathe life into mine.
Moving from pitcher to catcher, with her at bat.
To transition as a parent, at the same time that she transitions to adulthood.
To allow myself to go through the stages of grief.
“There is a fallow time for the Spirit when the soil is barren because of sheer exhaustion.” (Howard Thurman)
From here on in, there are things that I will not be able to control about her life and future.
- Take a lot of long walks.
- There cannot be change without loss. Imagine me without her living here.
- Reconnect with who I am in addition to being a parent.
- Step out of my comfort zone more often.
- Progress, not perfection.
- Give myself permission to let the spotlight shine on me.
- Move forward into my New Normal. Closer toward my True Self. Step by slow step.
- Return to my playful spirit.
- Build a bridge to the other side.
- Say Yes to new things.
- Allow a year of preparation and change. A Sabbatical. A new kind of pregnancy.
- Seek out mentors and role models.
- Await the next assignment to find me.
“You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” (Author unknown)
“The one who is swimming against the stream knows the strength of it.” (President Woodrow Wilson)
“I want you to get out there and walk—better yet, run! —on the road God called you to travel. I don’t want any of you sitting around on your hands. I don’t want anyone strolling off, down some path that goes nowhere. And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences.” (St. Paul. Ephesians 4:2-3 The Message Translation of the Bible)
Welcome the invitation to this new chapter of my life.